I’ve just been reading a Sunday Times News Review article on the top five regrets of people who are dying. The article is taken from a book based on a blog by Bronnie Ware, an Australian palliative carer, “The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing”.
1. I wish I’d had the courage to live a life true to myself, and not the life others expected of me.
2. I wish I hadn’t worked so hard
3. I wish I’d had the courage to express my feelings
4. I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends
5. I wish I’d let myself be happier.
I know that my diagnosis is not a terminal one, but cancer still is a terrible path, and the treatment can be as agonising as the disease. So when I got my diagnosis I was struck by a moment of clarity because I knew what emotional upheaval had led to the cancer and I vowed to turn my life around. Unfortunately, months down the road, I seemed to have lost that courage and I’m still struggling with fear of change. I felt as if I hadn’t done anything that had changed lives.
If you’re reading this and you’re well, do something today that will make you feel proud of yourself, for yourself.